what would bee do

seeking independence and unity

santmat:

Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I will find peace”. Spirit says, “Once you find peace, everything will fall into place.”

santmat:

Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I will find peace”. Spirit says, “Once you find peace, everything will fall into place.”

I love being horribly straightforward. I love sending reckless text messages (because how reckless can a form of digitized communication be?) and telling people I love them and telling people they are absolutely magical humans and I cannot believe they really exist. I love saying, “Kiss me harder,” and “You’re a good person,” and, “You brighten my day.” I live my life as straight-forward as possible.

Because one day, I might get hit by a bus.

Maybe it’s weird. Maybe it’s scary. Maybe it seems downright impossible to just be—to just let people know you want them, need them, feel like, in this very moment, you will die if you do not see them, hold them, touch them in some way whether its your feet on their thighs on the couch or your tongue in their mouth or your heart in their hands.

But there is nothing more beautiful than being desperate.

And there is nothing more risky than pretending not to care.

We are young and we are human and we are beautiful and we are not as in control as we think we are. We never know who needs us back. We never know the magic that can arise between ourselves and other humans.

We never know when the bus is coming.

“When you grow up as a girl, the world tells you the things that you are supposed to be: emotional, loving, beautiful, wanted. And then when you are those things, the world tells you they are inferior: illogical, weak, vain, empty. The world teaches you that the way you exist in it is disgusting — you watch boys cringe backward in your dorm room when you talk about your period, blue water pretending to be blood in a maxi pad commercial. It is little things, and it is constant. In a food court in a mall, after you go to the gynecologist for the first time, you and your friend talk about how much it hurts, and over her shoulder you watch two boys your age turn to look at you and wrinkle their noses: the reality of your life is impolite to talk about. The world says that you don’t have a right to the space you occupy, any place with men in it is not yours, you and your body exist only as far as what men want to do with it. At fifteen, you find fifteen-year-old boys you have never met somehow believe you should bend your body to their will. At almost thirty, you find fifteen-year-old boys you have never met still somehow believe you should bend your body to their will. They are children. They are children.”

—   Stevie Nicks (via tiredtalk)

(Source: whisperingwordsofwisdom, via namesatmyheels)

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfect, and work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism, blame and ridicule, the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame. All perfectionism is, is the 20-ton shield that we carry around hoping that it will keep us from being hurt.”

—   Brene Brown (via rabbitinthemoon)

(via fuckiminmytwenties)

“Her entire existence is trying to figure out what her life is supposed to be while her heart breaks a little bit everyday over the tragedy of being alive.”

—   Arlaina Tibensky  (via kintsukuroi-silver)

(Source: splitterherzen, via namesatmyheels)

“Find ecstasy within yourself. It is not out there. It is in your innermost flowering. The one you are looking for is you”

—   Osho (via garasteinfeld)

(Source: garasteinfeld)

“Truth is not something outside to be discovered, it is something inside to be realized.”

—   Osho (via quotes-shape-us)

Numbness means that you have somehow learned not to feel pain and not to feel pleasure. The whole society helps you to become dumb, deaf, blind, dead.

Only dull people can be dominated, oppressed. Only dull people can be ordered to go here and there, to do this and that. Only dull people are needed by society because dull people are very efficient, they don’t have any mind, they are not dangerous. Dull people are very convenient. Dull people drag their whole life.

A sensitive person would prefer to die than to become a slave, because slavery is possible only if you are so dull that you don’t feel the humiliation at all. And society needs slaves, all kinds of slaves; from the peon to the president, all kinds of slaves are needed. The only guarantee for having so many slaves is to destroy peoples’ capacity to feel, to be aware, to see. Their whole clarity has to be messed up so they cannot see, they cannot feel. Then naturally they go on accepting any kind of state, just to survive they go on accepting all kinds of humiliations. They are ready to exist below the human level.

—   Osho (via alittlebitoftruthcan)

wildcosmia:

"We teach girls to shrink themselves to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man.’ Because I am female I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. A marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support, but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they can not be sexual beings in the way that boys are. Feminist: A person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes."

***Flawless - Beyoncé ft Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

(via namesatmyheels)

The Warning I Would Give Myself Before Marrying

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfect, and work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism, blame and ridicule, the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame. All perfectionism is, is the 20-ton shield that we carry around hoping that it will keep us from being hurt”

—   Brene Brown (via mindofataurus)

(via betterthandarkchocolate)

“Don’t be slutty, don’t have sex. But be sexy. If you’re too sexy though and you get raped, then that’s your own fault because you’re not actually supposed to listen to us about being sexy, even though we tell you your value is derived from how sexy you are. If you get into a position of power, we will assume that you used your sex appeal to get there and not your brains and we will mock you even though we told you the only thing that mattered was your sex appeal. Make yourself accessible to me, but holy shit stop being so desperate and needy. Don’t be a tease. If we want to have sex with you, don’t friendzone us, even though we just fucking told you not to have sex.”

—   patriarchy proverb (via stfueverything)

(via nonhippie)

(Source: kushandwizdom)

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you’re special too”

—   Ernest Hemmingway (via serene-words)

(Source: spokenwords-for-brokensouls, via fuckiminmytwenties)